Practicing Stoicism comes with its own challenges, and among them are the social and communal implications. It is somewhat paradoxical – Stoicism is a profoundly pro-social philosophy, yet those who practice philosophy, in general, have often been considered a bit strange by the wider population. This is not something unique to Stoicism; throughout history, philosophers of all schools have been regarded as outsiders, sometimes even dangerous to the status quo.

Religion has long been a key component of society, offering structure, tradition, and communal belonging. Philosophy, however, stands apart in that it demands what Socrates called “an examined life.” It requires deep self-reflection, rational inquiry, and an unwavering commitment to truth, even when it is uncomfortable. This distinction often makes philosophy seem impractical or inaccessible to those who prefer the familiar rhythms of societal norms.

Stoicism as a tool for navigating social perception

One of the interesting aspects of the social challenges associated with Stoicism is that the adversity that comes from being perceived as different is actually addressed by Stoicism itself. The practice of Stoicism teaches detachment from the opinions of others, focusing only on what is within one's control.

Epictetus reminds us that we should concern ourselves only with what is up to us – our actions, our judgments, and our character. What others think of us, while something to be considered practically, should never deter us from our path. The Stoic does not live for the approval of others but rather aims to live in accordance with virtue and reason.
This means that if others view you as odd for practicing Stoicism, this is an opportunity to practice the philosophy itself. Instead of seeking validation or external affirmation, the Stoic stands firm in their principles. If others find it strange that you remain calm in difficult circumstances, that you do not react impulsively to anger or praise, or that you prioritize wisdom over fleeting pleasures, let that be their burden, not yours.

Virtue does not need an audience

Stoicism is not about meeting societal expectations; it is about living rightly. In a world filled with distractions, contradictions, and pressures to conform, the Stoic strives to act appropriately, regardless of external opinions. The goal is not to be liked but to be good. In a sense, the person who lives virtuously does not need an audience – they do so for inner reasons, not for applause or recognition.

This mindset requires strength. It is difficult to persist in any philosophy when surrounded by those who do not understand or value it. However, true self-mastery comes from standing firm in one’s values, not in bending to the expectations of others.

Stoicism as a path to deeper connection

That being said, Stoicism should not lead to isolation. Though it teaches resilience in the face of external opinions, it also emphasizes human connection, justice, and community.

At first glance, it may seem like practicing Stoicism could create distance between you and others, especially if they do not share the same philosophical inclinations. However, the opposite is often true. By committing to authentic living, you begin to filter out superficial relationships and instead cultivate deeper, more meaningful connections.
By striving to act wisely and justly, you naturally attract people who value the same qualities. The friendships that remain may be fewer in number, but they will be greater in depth and sincerity.

Standing alone, yet not alone

It is true that the wise person must sometimes stand alone, but that does not mean they are alone. Many of the greatest philosophers, thinkers, and leaders throughout history have walked a solitary path, yet their impact on humanity has been immeasurable. Stoics may not always be surrounded by like-minded people, but they are never truly alone, as they are connected to the broader human community in a deeper way.

Even when misunderstood, the Stoic remains part of something greater. The pursuit of wisdom, virtue, and inner tranquility links them to the long tradition of philosophers and seekers who have come before them.

Final thoughts

Practicing Stoicism in a world that may not always understand or appreciate it is, in itself, an act of resilience. It is an opportunity to put Stoic principles to the test, to strengthen one’s character, and to remain unwavering in the pursuit of virtue. While you may sometimes feel like an outsider, the truth is that Stoicism connects you to a deeper, more authentic sense of belonging.

Rather than viewing social challenges as obstacles, see them as chances to practice equanimity, courage, and wisdom. And remember: it is better to be quietly virtuous than loudly compromised.

Brandon is most well-known for his podcast, The Strong Stoic Podcast, where he discusses philosophical ideas both solo and with guests. He also coaches individuals to help them be their best selves, writes articles, plays music, manages projects, and several other things.

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